Party of One: A Memoir in 21 Songs (Hardcover)
From former MTV VJ Dave Holmes, the hilarious memoir of a perpetual outsider fumbling towards self-acceptance, with the music of the '80s, '90s, and today as his soundtrack
Dave Holmes has spent his life on the periphery, nose pressed hopefully against the glass, wanting just one thing: to get inside. Growing up, he was the artsy son in the sporty family. At his all-boys high school and Catholic college, he was the closeted gay kid surrounded by crush-worthy straight guys. And in his twenties, in the middle of a disastrous career in advertising, he accidentally became an MTV VJ overnight when he finished second, naturally, in the Wanna Be a VJ contest, opening the door to fame, fortune, and celebrity—you know, almost.
In Party of One, Holmes tells the hilariously painful and painfully hilarious tales—in the vein of Rob Sheffield, Andy Cohen, and Paul Feig—of an outsider desperate to get in, of a misfit constantly changing shape, of a music geek who finally learns to accept himself. Structured around a mix of hits and deep cuts from the last four decades—from Bruce Springsteen's "Hungry Heart" and En Vogue's "Free Your Mind" to LCD Soundsystem’s “Losing My Edge” and Bleachers’ “I Wanna Get Better”—and punctuated with interludes like "So You've Had Your Heart Broken in the 1990s: A Playlist" and “Notes on (Jesse) Camp,” this book is for anyone who's ever felt like a square peg, especially those who have found their place in the world around a band, an album, or a song. It's a laugh-out-loud funny, deeply nostalgic story about never fitting in, never giving up, and letting good music guide the way.
– NPR “Best Books of 2016”: Staff Picks, Biography & Memoir, For Music Lovers, Funny Stuff, Non-fiction Categories
About the Author
DAVE HOLMES is a writer, comedian, and television personality who has hosted shows for MTV, CBS, Bravo, Comedy Central, E!, FX, and Ovation. Recently named one of NPR’s 10 Favorite Pop Culture Personalities, he is a editor-at-large for Esquire.com, an on-air personality on SiriusXM’s The Spectrum, and a performer at the iO West and Upright Citizens Brigade theaters . He lives in Los Angeles.
One of NPR's Great Reads of 2016
One of Esquire's Best Books of 2016
Goodreads Choice Award nominee
“Dave Holmes’s hilarious memoir will delight pop culture junkies…. What makes Party of One such a standout in this overcrowded genre is Holmes’s voice, which is conversational, insightful about how the entertainment we consume informs our memories and, most important, really, really funny…. It will strike a chord with anyone who has ever felt inhibited or insecure. Which is to say, it will resonate with everyone.”
"[A] wonderful writer and comedian...[Holmes] has penned the funniest memoir I've read all year. Reading his book is like catching up with your favorite friend and music nerd."
—Jessica Reedy, NPR
"Dave Holmes's Party of One is the latest great gay American book.... While [it] is so consistently hilarious that it might deceive you into thinking it’s a lighter, less serious read than the aforementioned literature-with-a-capital-L, do not be fooled: Party of One is every bit as deserving to be considered in this new wave of essential, unmissable gay writing."
“Equal parts funny and heartfelt...an absolute treat.”
—Entertainment Weekly (Must List)
"Party of One is as charming as it is funny, and it's a testament to how pop music has the power to shape our lives."
“Holmes has a knack for breezy prose that’s insightful and funny—i.e., the kind of writing everyone on the internet aims for, but seldom hits, because the humor is labored or the perspective isn’t strong enough. Holmes’ voice translates nicely to book form, particularly when reliving awkward and painful moments from his past.”
“Holmes approaches his own story with warmth and a sense of humor...[in this] engaging tale.... He painstakingly makes sure each song rings true...[and] offers up his heart on his sleeve.”
“Exceptionally funny and memorable…. This memoir will fill your summer with nostalgia, music, and laughter.”
—Bustle (13 New Memoirs to Read This Summer)
“The greatest strength of Holmes’ book is its specificity. He has a very keen ability to slow moments down and examine them to expose a nugget of truth.... There is a warmth and sincerity that carries throughout.... If you’ve ever felt like that aforementioned bee girl [from Blind Melon's "No Rain" video], this is great book that might also help you feel like you aren’t partying alone.”
“Holmes’ prose style is engaging and witty. For fellow addicts of pop culture, there is no better book to pack in your beach bag this summer.”
“The best memoirs offer more detail on the parts of the subject’s life you already know about, and then illuminate some parts you didn’t. Party of One accomplishes both.”
“A sharp and sharp-witted reflection on what it was like to grow up gay and feeling like you never belong.”
“A hilarious memoir and a great summer beach book.”
“Humorous, yet poignant.... Holmes doesn’t shy away from discussing his early struggles with his sexuality as a closeted gay teen, often in a wry, self-effacing way.”
“Holmes is all charm, and his self-deprecating style makes his story relatable and engaging without feeling self-involved. A hilarious and touching coming-of-age story that will strike a particular nerve among Generation Y.”
"While [Holmes is] inarguably a funny guy, he’s also a thoughtful one who has interesting things to say about life away from the camera. And saying them, he’s always good company. Welcome to his party.”
“In Party of One, Dave Holmes goes deep into all the ways loving music warps you for life, from shaping your teen crush on Huey Lewis to putting you on MTV at the peak of the TRL era. But his book is also a tenderly hilarious and moving tale of trying to grow up—whether that means coming out at your Catholic college, hitting the hot tub with Kid Rock, or getting that sensation that the singer on your radio is the only soul who truly understands you.”
—Rob Sheffield, New York Times bestselling author of Love Is a Mix Tape
“Who better to marry great storytelling with great songs? Dave Holmes’s love of music and pop culture is infectious, and his stories are hilarious!”
—Andy Cohen, New York Times bestselling author of Most Talkative
“Party of One speaks a secret language to those of us who grew up at a time when being different was something to be hidden rather than celebrated. Holmes’ masterful wit and colorful storytelling never obscures the soulful honesty underneath—which is exactly the lesson we “different” kids learned to live with. Fantastically fun and captivating.”
—Josh Kilmer-Purcell, New York Times bestselling author of I Am Not Myself These Days
“Party of One is a perfect memoir—hilarious, moving, and full of beauty. Holmes writes at all times with great heart, brains, and courage.”
—Darin Strauss, National Book Critics Circle Award–winning author of Half a Life
“I love this book. I felt so many of the things that Holmes describes with grace and candor, from our shared pop culture shorthand to our nearly unbearable love of music. There are also a million jokes packed in here. I went over each paragraph to laugh again and again.”
—Margaret Cho, bestselling author of I’m the One That I Want
“While the soundtrack to Dave Holmes' young life may have been primarily composed of American and British Top 40, his glorious attention to detail has more in common with Bach. And I mean Johann Sebastian Bach, not the lithe, sexy bigot who sang for Skid Row. This is an exquisite music memoir that easily fulfills its goals of entertaining people young and old and helping them figure out where the hell they fit in.”